Toxic MIL

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Question: My mother in law planned a big family holiday and invited everyone except for me. Like literally put together a group chat, added her 4 sons and the 3 wives… and left me out. She also said that the kids are invited too (we have 2 kids and she specifically mentioned them by name). My husband is saying that I should go, even though I’m not invited. What should I do?

Feeling left out



Dear Feeling Left Out,

Talk about being petty!

For whatever reason, (seems like there is some background drama going on between you two), your MIL doesn't like you or care for you. So you either need to sort that out with her, or if you’ve already tried and that hasn't worked then there are a few options you could consider:

1. Let your husband know it isn't cool that you’ve been excluded and that he needs to defend you. You are his wife, and his mum is being a jerk. He needs to grow a pair, take a stand and tell his mum that she needs to include you in the chat or your family won’t be joining in on the holiday. 

2. Let your husband and kids go on the holiday and you do your own thing! I’d kill for time away, and maybe even book my own holiday. Maybe Fiji or something by the beach with cocktails! Maybe this is a blessing in disguise! Let your husband deal with the kids and you take the break. This would be a win-win, as you wouldn't need to confront anyone and you would get to do whatever the heck you want!

With that being said, you really need to deal with your MIL drama otherwise this is going to be an ongoing issue. She sounds petty AF!


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